Tired of dating men who ghost you or disappear as soon as things begin to get serious? It is time you recognise your attraction to men who are emotionally unavailable and why you keep making the mistake again.
This time, turn things around by questioning the judgement of the men you choose to date instead of blaming yourself for something you might have done wrong to chase them away. There are high chances you were seeing someone who was emotionally detached and unavailable and because you feel a strong attraction towards them, you ignore the red flags and choose to give it a chance anyway. Here is where you are going wrong.
When you have intentions of finding a loving, caring and passionate partner who will commit to you and stay loyal no matter what, you need to be smart enough to pick your battles wisely. If you too are stuck in the same dating pattern where you meet a boy, you get attracted, you start talking, things begin to get serious and he suddenly disappears then it is time you get to the root of the problem which is your unknowing attraction to men who are emotionally unavailable.
Let’s face it, no guy is going to blatantly agree or confess that they are looking for something casual as they could be confused too. They can take their time in forming a decision prior to making commitments, but where most of the women go wrong is setting higher expectations since the beginning and imagining scenarios in their heads before having ‘the talk’ with their potential partners.
Women are often clear about their intentions and most of the time, it is true. However, men might beat around the bush, test the waters and then form an opinion. When things get serious or there are talks about long term commitment, men usually chicken out because they simply weren’t available and you are left unseen wondering what went wrong this time. The trick is to not let emotionally unavailable fool you into dating them, believe in the signs and stay far away.
Here are 5 reasons why you get attracted to men who are emotionally unavailable.
You love the chase
If you are someone who loves the chase, it is understood that you may feel strongly attracted to men who are emotionally detached. Chasing someone involves a certain thrill and excitement, in the beginning, things don’t seem boring or dull. You want to see the rewards by getting them to like you and the gratification you get after they fall for you is worth the wait.
You want to fix them
Apart from the chase, you have an instinct feeling to fix someone who you might think is broken. Instead need to help someone or heal them is an intimate feeling as you may feel closer to them. It brings you closer as you feel you are the only one who can penetrate through the walls they have built around them. However, you need to keep in mind that you can’t fix someone overnight and you certainly cannot force them to be available or ready for a commitment.
You like the mystery
As much as you like the chase, you like the mystery too. Mystery adds a spark to the relationship but, in this case, you cannot fool yourself into thinking that the spark will stay alive until the end. Eventually, a person who doesn’t want a relationship will make sure they don’t get into one and the mystery will fade away.
You settle for less
At last, the only other reason why you feel attracted to emotionally unavailable men is that you settle for less. You accept the love you think you deserve and this is where you might go wrong. When someone who is emotionally unavailable gives you attention, you instantly feel an attraction because somewhere deep down you resonate with them. It gets easier for you to express yourself and before you know it, you are in a trap.
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